How to live a balanced life
I choose balance.
Someone recently told me, “You chose me.” Honestly, it seemed a little selfish. As a mother, many times, I am the last person I think of. I put my needs above the needs of my family. I am not selfish.
But it is also important not to neglect yourself.
How do you live your life? Do you need to add a little balance?
Balance – an even distribution of weight that enables a person to remain upright and still.
Maintaining balance is difficult! Some days I feel like I’m pulling in one direction and then pulling wildly in the other. It’s like a tug-of-war with a professional soccer team at the end of a tug of war. But, other days I feel fine. I feel like I’ve been able to balance all aspects of my life – being a mother, a business owner, a girlfriend, and making time for myself.
When you have commitments, it is important to consider the choices you make. I can let my career take over my life, travel for my job and neglect the vacations I had with my daughter (aka not having a balanced life). I can live life and celebrate it – making it all about me. But this is not the person I am and this is not the life I choose. This is not my choice when I became a mother. Yes, it can be fun. But my job is as a mother. My priority is raising my child. That’s not to say I don’t let my hair fall out every now and then (aka balancing). But that doesn’t mean I neglect my child by putting the work schedule and the social schedule first.
I also chose to be a sober mother. If I only had to think to myself, drinking would probably still be something I did. I wanted to be a better person for me and my daughter. She deserves a mother who has a clear head, gets up on time and doesn’t live in a busy world.
My best friend started having children a little earlier than I did. She was busy raising her adorable children. (One of the reasons they’re so adorable is that she put a mother’s job first.) Now that her kids are 18 and 21, she’s able to enjoy weekends without her kids and nights at casinos. She puts the needs of her children first. Yes, she’s been spending time with her husband and having all-night business meetings, but she hasn’t ignored the big moments like seeing her kids dress up for Halloween or missing out on the Easter egg hunt. She has balanced her work life with her family life.
So, where are your priorities? What is important to you?
I think it needs to become more about choosing a healthy balance rather than choosing one thing over another. It’s not about choosing yourself or not choosing yourself.
Here are some ways to live a more balanced life:
Maintain a balance of what you need and what those around you need
– Learn to say no
– Be a little selfish
Don’t neglect your wife or children, put them first
– Balance activities with friends
– I realize it’s okay if there is It’s another thing you’d like to do
Boundaries are set for reasons and don’t feel bad if others don’t respect your boundaries
– It might be time to rethink your relationship with friends or family – do you give them too much and not enough for those who really matter
– It’s okay to not always be a fun person
– love your self
Find happiness from within (people, places, or other things shouldn’t make you happy)
– I love the life you live. If you don’t love your life, look inside and be true to yourself and what needs to change.
Don’t neglect important responsibilities.
– Be a better time manager so you have time for what matters
For me, it is selfish to choose myself. This is especially true because I have responsibilities. I walked into that life and took on the role of automatically realizing that I put my needs above others, I would compromise, I would give, I would be stressful, but you knew what I was doing.
Perhaps it is time to rethink your life and what is important to you. Maybe it’s time to live a more balanced life.
*I actually used to teach others how to live a more balanced life. But, that was before I was a mother and wife. It used to be easy for me to tell people what to do, but now I live life with more. I am looking forward to finding more balance in my life in the coming year.